When I was going through a very difficult time earlier this year and dealing with severe grief, loss, and ableism (as a person with PTSD/CPTSD, and thus, a person with a trauma history) a family member said to me:
“I understand PTSD because I have interviewed people with PTSD.”
Which is a bit like saying “I understand the experiences of Black people because I have Black friends” if you are white.
In other words, it’s toxic positivity horseshit.
Here’s a little video that explains it better than I can.
Never, ever be so arrogant and naive as to think you “understand” anything–at all–about someone else’s trauma.
Especially if you are also choosing to believe it does not exist and taking actions based on that belief.
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For me, it is like saying “Oh, I took a psychology class,” and I am a therapist. Though, I know they aren’t comparing themselves to me, it is still amusing for me to hear. I love the mug I found on the internet “Don’t confuse your Google search with my Psychology degree.”
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